The One-Question Quiz

Pick a person in your life you would like to have a better relationship with. Next ask yourself the following question if you are wondering if you have a healthy relationship or not:

How would you rate it out of 10?

(10 being it is AWESOME and 0 being AWFUL)

The only criteria that matters is yours but here are a few things to consider:

How much JOY does this relationship give me?

Or how much STRESS does it give me?

The more joy, the higher your rating will be.

The more stress, the lower your rating will be.

I would rate my relationship _____/10?

Your number is very telling.

Here is how to determine if your relationship is healthy: 

8, 9 or 10

If you rated your relationship 8, 9 or 10/10, this is a HEALTHY relationship.  Scoring any of these numbers indicates stability, strong relationship habits, good conflict resolution skills and lots of love, respect, and joy.  This relationship is long-lasting.

Recommendation:  Be conscious of why your relationship is so good.  Keep up your strong relationship habits and you will undoubtedly live happily ever after.

6 or 7

If you rated your relationship 6 or 7/10, this is a STRAINED relationship.  Scoring any of these numbers indicates there is a problem area that is not resolved.  It is likely something you fight about over and over and it is causing strain now.  Left unresolved, things will get worse.

Recommendation:  Figure out how to resolve the issue that is coming between you.  Make your goal to get your relationship to 8, 9 or 10 and ask your partner what they need to feel happy-er.

 3, 4 or 5

If you rated your relationship 2, 3 or 4/10, this is a FRACTURED relationship.  Scoring any of these numbers indicates there are MULTIPLE issues that are not resolved.  It is likely one or both of you are thinking about ending the relationship.  This is a relationship in trouble.

Recommendation:  This relationship has been neglected or in conflict for a long time and usually has deep, old and/or unresolved issues.  Your best resource is a relationship expert.

 0, 1 or 2

If you rated your relationship 0, 1 or 2/10, this is a CRITICAL relationship.  Scoring any of these numbers indicates you are in the ‘Relationship ICU’.  Often apathy has sunk in now.  You feel you have tried everything and you have lost hope or worse, you don’t even care anymore.

Recommendation: A relationship in the ‘ICU’ takes the most commitment and work to ‘resuscitate’ *however* it also has the most potential for complete relationship transformation. 

Next steps…

Depending on your score will determine your next steps but I believe ALL relationships have the potential to be 10/10.  Some do require a bit more work than others and for that I am here to help.  There are lots of free resources on my site you that are designed to help you boost your connection with the humans that matter most to you.