Messy drawers.

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Messy drawers.

Messy drawers. 

Last week I was sharing with a group I mentor in Australia that if you are feeling stuck, uninspired or need an energy boost, there is a easy-peasy, simple way to shift.

Ready?

Clean out a drawer.

 We all have them. Drawers that we cram stuff into to save for “sort later” or that does not have a home “yet”. Kitchen drawers. Bathroom drawers. Desk drawers. Junk drawers.Drawers just full of stuff we just don’t feel like dealing with.

Even the neatest of people have at least one space where clutter piles up.

So my coaches challenge to you is simple: pick a drawer you kind of or really hate. You know, the one you can never find what you are looking for when you open it. The one that is filled with paper or old make up or school notices or stuff from 2002 you kept “just in case”.

You know the one.

Now clean it out.

This drawer may have been years in the making but I assure you it is going to take you about 15 minutes to clean it out. Then watch what happens.

To your energy. To your clarity. To your momentum.

You’re welcome.

To shifting,

b

ps

Just 4 spaces left in the ALIVE workshop if you want to keep your momentum going! http://www.thealiverevolution.com/workshops/?mc_cid=8fd9710c4d&mc_eid=95b96b3527

 

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Back to school

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Back to school

Back to school

My children left this morning for the first day of school.
Yesssssssssss!
Don’t get me wrong, I love them dearly but as an entrepreneur who works  from home I am also really loving the quiet of the house today and the return to routines.

Hopefully you had a great summer. but don’t you just love September?  I think the energy of fall has even more momentum than new year’s for powerful re-set’s, re-focusing and re-charging. 

I am excited to tell you about live event I am hosting October 4th right here in the Kelowna, BC called “The Alive Workplace”.

Why?  Because everywhere I go people tell me the same complaints when asked how things are going.  Tired.  Overwhelmed.  Super busy. And stressed out.  Now I could tell you all about stress management tricks and self-care rituals and the benefits of yoga but the truth is, what people really need is to feel ALIVE.  Because when you feel ALIVE, you bring that to work and frankly everywhere you go.  This whole work/life balance thing is easier to master than you think and if your workplace could use a little injection of alive-ness, then this might just be the thing for you.

What do you get?

  • Three (3) hours of live training with myself and co-host Linda Edgecombe
  • The complete Alive Workplace Online Course (6 modules)
  • A private Facebook group to collaborate with other team leaders and influencers
  • The ALIVE Workplace handbook loaded with hand outs and tips to help you create clarity, resiliency, communication, mindfulness and lead your team better.

Who should attend?
Business owners.  Team leaders.  Influencers.  Movers. Shakers.  Essentially people who know that everything gets better - profit, productivity and people - when ALIVE is part of the corporate culture.

Want to join me or send your team? Register here:
http://www.thealiverevolution.com/workshops/?mc_cid=8fd9710c4d&mc_eid=95b96b3527

Can't make it to Kelowna and wondering if we have a remote workshop you can sign up for?  Absolutely.  Just hit reply with a simple "Tell me more..." and we can connect on how to get you hooked up with the ALIVE Workplace Virtual Version.

Whew!  That’s a lot for the first day back to school.

To kick-starting your ALIVE this fall,
Beth

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Give yourself permission

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Give yourself permission

The other day I ran into a friend who is building a new home.  They have excavated and prepped the land it all for the new build and are in the process of finalizing plans and organizing all the moving parts to construct a new beautiful new home.  In the meantime, they have moved into a condo downtown until all the construction is underway and complete.

You might think all of this moving and re-locating to a whole different neighbourhood might seem stressful but the opposite is true.

She is so happy.

She loves everything about downtown.
The vibe.
The walking.
The ease of her life.
Everything has been simplified.

So much so it is tempting her to just sell the land and make downtown living their new thing.

Will they stay?
Or will they stay the course on their original plan?

And therein lies the crux of this blog.

Sometimes we make big, fat, epic goals.
But along the way we lose sight of our why.
Or the goal no longer is a fit.
But we push because "I started it and I am going to finish it".

Now don’t get me wrong.
I am all about having integrity, being consistent and getting to the finish line.
But in this case, not if it doesn’t serve you.

So my coaches challenge to you is this:

Check in.
What goal are you working towards that you set this year
*and*
does it still serve you?

If not, give yourself permission to change course and let it go.
Guilt-free (of course!).
It's as simple as releasing a balloon.
Naturally you can make it more complicated if you want, but personally I would save your energy for important things. 

Like your new goal. :)

To bless and releasing goals,
Beth

ps
Could you use some coaching this fall? I have a three spots open in my calendar for new clients.  Book a complimentary 30 minute discovery session with me any Monday in September!  It would be my pleasure to give my take on how you can create a life and business you love.
http://mindsetcoaching.genbook.com

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What's cookin'?

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What's cookin'?

What’s cookin’?

Okay normally "what's cookin?’" is just an expression for "what's up?" or "whatcha working on?" but in this case I really mean it.

Summer (for those of us in the western hemisphere!) brings a bounty of fresh fruits and vegetables to the farmers markets and it makes me so happy.  I love supporting our local growers plus it gives me the perfect excuse to make my all-time favourite pasta recipe.

Not only it is super simple but it is the very first dinner my husband ever cooked for me (yes, he is far more accomplished in the kitchen than me - so much so he made a recipe he cut out of the paper to try for the very first time and it was ah-mazing).

It is now our official “anniversary” dinner but we make it any time we see fresh cherry tomatoes.

Want to create your own love dinner?  Here s the recipe:

3/4 pound (350g of your fusilli or your fav pasta)
3 tablespoons of olive oil
4 cups of cherry tomatoes (halved)
4-6 garlic cloves (your choice!)
1/4 cup chopped fresh tarragon (this is what makes it so great)
2-3 tablespoons of balsamic vinegar
salt & pepper

Method:  Boil water and add pasta.  While pasta is cooking heat oil and add tomatoes and garlic.  Cook for 5-7 minutes or until liquid-y.  Remove from heat.  Add tarragon, vinegar, salt & pepper and toss over hot pasta.  Voila!  

You're welcome.

To love meals,
Beth

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Table 8

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Table 8

This photo might look like any ol table and glassware but I assure you it is not.
This is table 8.
The place where I sat last night at the most extraordinary event  - “concert in the cellars” - in support of the Okanagan Symphony Orchestra.

Picture this:
A reception and dinner filled with exquisite food, paired wine and the incredible sounds of the cello vibrating amidst the stainless steel wine tanks in the cellar of the winery.  It was quite an evening.

But that wasn’t the best part.  The best part was table 8.  Aside from my friend who had invited me, I sat with 6 other strangers whom I had never met but by the end of the night we were all laughing, hugging and planning our next get together.

And do you know why?
Because of being interested vs. interesting.

You can go to any event, party or social gathering and find three groups of people:

The not interested.
The interesting.
The interested.

The not interested types are pretty self explanatory.  You introduce yourself to them and they are not really interested in you.  Conversation is strained, painful or distracted and it usually goes nowhere.

The interesting types are far more amusing.  They often the extroverts, story-tellers and fun people you meet but they are can also be non-interested in what anyone else has to say.  Not all interesting people are interested.

Then there are the interested.  These are people who are genuinely curious about who you are, how you think and the things that make up you.  They are my favourite kind of people and I always gravitate towards those types.

I have no idea if table 8 had not-interested, interesting or interested people at it when I sat down but I do know that by a few of us asking a few unusual, interested questions, the whole table became engaged.  Sharing little tidbits of our lives.  Not so much what we do for a living but how people met, or how much they love to cook, or what they do for fun or the party lines they used where they grew up.  In just three hours I found out a lot about these people and all this being interested led to the simplest most powerful thing that is critical to everything you want to do in life:

create connection.

You need it for growing your business.
You need it for growing your relationships.
You need it for growing your alive-ness.

So the nest time you are somewhere with a bunch of strangers I hope you take a page from table 8.  Just dare to be interested.  All it takes is the courage to ask a not-normal or pat question and delight in where it leads you.

To conversations that matter,
Beth

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On self doubt

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On self doubt

I coach a lot of successful people.  Serious game-changers, global-shifters, big dreamers kind of people.  And I learned in the many, many conversations that I have had is that no one is immune to self-doubt.  No one.  

You get the idea to launch new idea?  “Will it work?” said the inner critic in your mind.  You come up with something new.  “Is it even original at all?.  You muster the courage to write, create, make or simply do something that inspires you to share it with the world and sure enough “Will anyone even care about this?” shows up too.

This photo above is me looking and feeling very small the night before the Amplified Leadership Event.  I remember standing on that huge stage in Australia in the biggest venue and audience I have ever spoken to before and that self-doubt voice was LOUD.  “What possessed you to say yes to this?”  I was terrified of everything.  Forgetting everything I had prepared.  Paling in comparison to those I shared the stage with.  Screwing up day 1 of the event.  Letting my friend down.  You name it I thought it.  But I did it. In spite of really doubting I could.

This isn’t one of those “feel the fear and do it anyway” kind of posts.

This is instead simply to say, expect it.  Do not be surprised when self-doubt shows up.  It will.  There is not magic pill for over-coming it but this something you can do when it does: accept it.

Partner with it.
Dance with it.
Play with it.
Use it even.

Just do not let “it” run the show. It can watch from the sidelines.  It can hang out back stage.  But it is you who ultimately steps into the ring and it is this act of stepping into the ring that changes everything.  Your confidence.  Your mastery.  Your success.   Whether or to you rock it or it all ends in a complete disaster does to matter as much as your willingness to just do your thing.

The act of just showing up.  With your fear.  With your doubt.  With your anxiety.  Is all you ever need to do.

May the odds be ever in your favor.
xo

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The writing on the wall

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The writing on the wall

There is a poem that writes about the “dash” that says what matters is not the day we start and end our life as much as what we do in the ‘in between’.

I have been thinking about this a lot this week as I had the privilege to honour the passing of my husband’s grand father Alan who had lived 97 years.   And in those 97 years he managed to accumulate 13 children, 34 grandchildren and 47 great-great children.  If you are doing the math,  that’s 94 direct descendants.  Aka a lot.

Needless to say, it was quite a celebration of life.

And although I don’t know a lot of people who would say that funerals are easy, but I think the rituals surrounding a death are an important part of the grieving process.  I find them to be beautiful and poignant and this one was particularly so.  Every step of the way there were personal items, stories, collections and photos to remind people of the ‘dash’ that had been lived.

But it is what was behind the scenes that is maybe the best part of this story.  In Alan (and Vera’s) home where they raised and gathered this epic family for the past 72 years, there is this fantastic door in the kitchen.  And on this door you will find the names of all the children who ever lived or came into this house and the dates when they got "measured up".

It was an important part of coming to Nana and Papa's house.

Children who came into this home were seen.  Noticed.  And stood by the door to see how much they had grown since their last visit.

Seen.
Noticed.
And celebrated.

And isn’t that what life should really be about?

These three things can be found at the heart of anything successful and good.  Families.  Friendships.  Companies.  Communities.  Corporations.  Organizations.  Groups with humans.  When people feel significant and appreciated, well, magic happens.

I think Alan would feel pretty proud to have the ritual of truly seeing and celebrating people to be the legacy he passed on.

So here’s to remembering what matters (writing on doors optional but recommended!).
Beth

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The bus.

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The bus.

This past weekend people from across the country and around the globe learned that a bus carrying a junior hockey team from Humboldt, Saskatchewan was in an accident. A really awful accident where 15 of the 29 people on that bus died.

Half the team.

Like many parents who have kids in sports, this is a worst nightmare come true.  Coaches and kids board buses every day and hit the highways to play games.  Driving late in the dark in every road and weather condition.  Our own daughter played field hockey for the past four years and each season she traveled over 5000 km’s on a bus.

And having been the support vehicle that travels behind said bus I can tel you this: the bus is the best part.

Oh sure, everyone complains about the bus and how cramped your muscles get from trying to sleep on it but make no mistake.  The bus is where everything that matters happens.

The conversations.
The cards games.
The homework.
The motivational speeches.
The de-briefs.
The celebrations.
The magic.

Ask any kid, one thing is true for sure: the more time you spend on a bus, it changes your team from a bunch of players to a family.

On Friday a hockey family was devastated.
Horrifically, traumatically and irrevocably devastated on their team bus.

I just want to drive to Saskatchewan and start hugging people.

I do not have the slightest idea what the families of the victims and survivors need right now to get through this but I know there are many people, including me, offering prayers, food, funds and support any way they can.

In the end, the team chaplain said it best:

"Can we heal? Yes. Will the scars be there? Yes.”

If you have been personally affected by this tragedy, then I send you buckets of love.  If your heart is breaking as this unfolds from one human to another, then I send you love too.

Pain.
Love.
Healing.
Hope.

To the things that connect us all,
b

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If you build it, they will come.

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If you build it, they will come.

In 1987 Kevin Costner made a baseball diamond.
And that famous movie line was born…
“If you build it, they will come”.

Movie quotes aside I feel that this is the heart of every business.
The dream to create something  - a product or a service - that people will get excited about it.
Some ‘thing’ that will make you life better, richer or just easier.

This is my favourite part of being an entrepreneur.
Making stuff!

Last year I created my first online course  - the ALIVE Academy and if you have ever created one, then you know how much work it is.  I have learned a lot this past year - about curriculum design, about technology and about myself as a creative.

I think one of the best qualities about being an entrepreneur is flexibility and being willing to change and adapt when you need to.  The Academy has been awesome *and* over the past 9 months we have learned a lot better ways to do things.

Like making it 90 days instead of a one year course.
Like making it more user friendly.
Like making it even simpler to shift the areas of your life that could use some tweaking.

On March 12th the new ALIVE Academy rolls out with all the ways to help you get un-stuck and uber-supported so there is way less “meh” and a whole lot  more “Yes!” to how you do everything.

*Saturday, March 3rd is the last day to take advantage of the early bird special and save $100!

Reserve your seat today!
http://www.thealiverevolution.com/the-alive-revolution-academy/

It is all built.
I hope you come!

And if you are building some baseball fields of your own you are proud of, I would love to hear about it!

To choosing ALIVE,
Beth

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Up for Aging Wildly?

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Up for Aging Wildly?

I have been writing, coaching and speaking on how to be more ALIVE for the past nine
months and a few things have become very clear to me.

There is not a lot of support for aging wildly.

Instead we are bombarded with images of aging gracefully.
Aging responsibly.
Aging “normally”.

I do not even know what that means but if there is one thing I know for sure it’s that not a lot of us are  aging happily.

Instead we seem to be aging tired-ly.
Exhausted-ly.
Worried-ly.
And overhwlemed-ly.

Not exactly the way we planned our lives to be.
But there is a better alternative.

Aging Wildly.

Join me and my partner Linda Edgecombe where we will dish on the best practices to age more wildly in our favourite way to teach stuff: simply.

Plus we will also share about how you can age wildly with us in March.

Join us Monday, February 26th at 10:00am PST for all the goods.
Register here to claim your spot:
https://zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_RjMgY0ZYTsChYL9YQHet7w

(And yes it will be recorded if you cannot make it live!)

To aging on your terms,

B

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Are you tired of this?

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Are you tired of this?

 want to ask you a question.
It’s a common question.  Ready?

“How is it going?”

Chances are your response is what 90% of what people say.
“Fine”  or “Good”
The other 10% of people are “awesome” or “terrible”.

The truth is, whatever your answer, I am quite certain you did not set out for your life to be merely fine.  “Fine” is not the dream you had.

“When I grow up I want to be ‘fine’”.
Nobody had that dream!

And yet, here we are so very, very busy.
Busy working,
Busy being a great parent.
Busy getting in shape.
Busy cleaning our house.
Busy running our business.
Busy trying to eat well.
Busy tying to find time to stop being busy!

That is where fine sneaks in the back door and moves into our life.

For the past year I have been asking people how they are doing and getting them to take the “alive audit”.  A simple litmus test of 10 areas of your life.  If you have not taken it, go here to download yours:

http://www.thealiverevolution.com/aliveaudit/

(FYI…if you take it the most common score is between 50-60%).

Most of us have some areas of our life rocking
and some areas not so much.

This is normal.

But if we never stop to look at those areas, we end up being simply “fine”.
But….
you can chose to be alive.

I am so dedicated to people getting their alive mojo back my partner in crime Linda Edgecombe, created the 14 day alive activation.   A free, fun way to kick-start your alive-ness and bring a little energy into all of the areas of your life that matter.

This month, a whole bunch of people (70 have already signed up yesterday!) are joining the ALIVE revolution and saying yes to ALIVE.

You can register here:
http://14dayaliveactivation.com/

It’s fun to be alive with other people on the same path.
So jump in!

Every other day you will receive a little ALIVE challenge - some easy-peasy, some a little harder.  But I promise you will definitely feel more alive at the end of the month if you are willing to take just a little action.

All of January I have been writing, filming and creating so much stuff for you.  I cannot wait to share it with you! 

To choosing alive,
b

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Ho-ho shut down

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Ho-ho shut down

Yesterday I put in my last day of work for 2017.
Whew! What  a epic year it has been for me.

Lots of travel.
Lots of speaking.
Lots of new stuff launched.
Lots of learning curves.
Lots of milestones.
Lots of fun.

I hope as you are reading this, you are also taking some time off
and stopping to celebrate
all the wins
and and all learns you had this year.

Both are really important to note.

Thank you for being a part of my community, reading my oh-so-inconsistent-blog and even stopping to reply when a particle subject moved you so.

Here’s to an epic 2018!
May our paths cross often.

My very best to you,
Beth

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My best tips to end your year with JOY!

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My best tips to end your year with JOY!

Just a quick question before you slide into your weekend:

ARE YOU READY FOR 2018?

There are heaps of ways to close your year but personally I think there are better ways than others.  I don't know about you, but I have often found myself this time of year being so hard on myself and feeling bad when I focus at all the things I did not do or did not do well or failed to complete.

Naturally this beating-thy-self-up ritual is not recommended!

 There is a better way.  This week my business partner Linda Edgecombe and I laid out our best year-end rituals with our private ALIVE Academy members but we thought…

“Why not share this with everyone”? “

So we are.  This Monday, December 18th, you have the chance to get the goods on The 4.5 Things To Do Before New Year's Eve including how to cast your vision for the year ahead!

No sales pitch (you cannot actually join the Academy until next year).
No fluff.
Just our gift to you.

Here is how to register (and yes, it is totally free):

http://14dayaliveactivation.com/nye/

See you there!
Beth

 

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Surviving the holiday season

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Surviving the holiday season

It feels like the holidays commercialism comes earlier and earlier every year.
It used to sneak in right after Halloween
but I swear I thought I saw a Christmas tree in Costco before that.
Regardless, unless you live off the grid, it is pretty hard to avoid the pressure to do it all.

To shop.
To buy.
To wrap.
To ship.
To go out.
To host.
To drink.
To bake.
To eat.
To find the perfect gifts for everyone.
To trim the tree.
To put up the lights.
To decorate the house.

And on and on it goes.  The holiday vortex.

I am not sure why this season comes
with so much pressure to get it all “right”.
But here is my two-cents for getting through it with a little more of the spirit  
and less of the stress.

It’s pretty simple.

Each time you think of a task, an invite or some to do on your list, ask yourself this question:

Does this make me feel good?

That’s it.
Insert your very own joy barometer into all your decisions.

Does baking Christmas cookies make you feel good?
Then it’s a yes.
What about baking 12 dozen for the Christmas exchange?
Hmmm….not so much?
Then no.

Going to friends for a beautiful dinner or drinks?
That sounds nice…yes!
Having somewhere to go until you are exhausted at the thought of one more night out?
Hmmm….maybe good time to say some no's.

Sending cards to everyone you know because “that’s what I do”.
Not a good yes.
Sending cards with joy? Better yes.

Buying gifts for everyone out of obligation?  Just. Say No.
Mixing up tradition with opting out, giving more to families in need or just spend time instead of money.  Yes.

There is no right or wrong here.
The important thing to notice the traditions you have and check in on whether they actually make you feel good.
My coaches challenge is to be brave enough to toss out the ones that make you grumpy.

Wishing you a joyful December!
b

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It took me 50 years to get this…

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It took me 50 years to get this…

Even though it feels like I have been turning 50 since August,
yesterday it was official.
50 years on the planet.

I was very intentional about how I spent my day
and the very first thing on my to-do list was go to yoga.
I cannot even adequately describe what happened in that room but I shall try.
One of my favourite instructors was teaching
and a few days before she asked me what my favourite songs were to make a “birthday yoga playlist”.

It was so incredibly awesome to have every one of my favourite songs
cranked out in the studio.
But that is not even the best part.
Because I has chosen some classics - Simon and Garfunkel, Michael Jackson and Neil Diamond to name a few - they were songs everyone knew.
And as each song played, everyone in the room broke out into song.
A room full of singing yogi’s in a class the teacher dedicated to me.
Words cannot express how it felt to be in that room.
And by the time Joni Mitchell’s “Both Sides Now” played us into savasana
I was reduced to a puddle of grateful tears.

For this beautiful room of people.
For this space I am at home with my yoga family.
For the life I have created.

And this is where the big aha came to me
which I feel truly took me 50 years to learn.

The secret to happiness lies in letting LOVE in.
In mastering the art of receiving.

I wasn’t always good at this.
I am by nature, really good at giving.
And I have also been very good at over-giving (and people pleasing and resenting).
I have excelled at over-committing, over-doing and over-sacrificing.
I have even been outstanding at deflecting compliments, generosity and attention.

But I have learned, with practice, to graciously, humbly and sincerely receive.
And  this simple act of self-love has been one so unexpectedly beautiful.
I think I secretly worried that if I became good at receiving I would become selfish.
Or I would somehow give less to the people and work I love.
But the opposite is true.
The more I am willing to receive, the more capacity I have to give.
The more I have to give, the more I can receive.
It is a delicious cycle.

So as a brand new quinquagenarian (the period after 50 years!),
my coaches call to action to you is this:

Become an excellent receiver.

Let love in.
Let kindness in.
Let all that is good knocking on your door... in.

xo,
b

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A very happy birthday

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A very happy birthday

In November I turn 50.
Yep the big 5-0.
There are lots of ways to celebrate this milestone.
A huge party.
An epic trip.
A crazy adventure.
But when my friends asked me what I wanted to do to celebrate this milestone birthday,  I knew it was none of those things.
I wanted just one thing.

A summer dinner party with my favourite people.

And so my beautiful husband and dear friends planned the whole thing.
The food.
The theme.
The costumes.
The decorations.
The table.
The songs (I had not one but two songs sang in my honour that evening. Over. The. Top.)

It was about as perfect as any party could be. 

The moral of this story?
This party was no accident.
The table of love I got to experience on this evening didn’t just “happen”.
The evening was filled with relationships I have had for years…decades even.
Relationships that I nurture and cultivate and bring my whole, real self to.

This can only happen if you spend lots of time with people.
Like actually make the time to get together.
Not be “too busy” or “too tired” to follow through on plans.
(For the record we do have “sweatpant saturday" potluck dinners for when we are feeling particularly sloth-ish!).
The point is, we get together.  Often.
We break bread and have conversations that matter.
And that’s how tables of love are made.

So here is my coaches invitation to you:  plan a party.
Invite your favourite people.
Celebrate, laugh, eat, drink and dance together.
Repeat as necessary!

You do not have to wait for a special occasion.
Make one up!

To tables of love,
b

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Feeling Broody

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Feeling Broody

 

Slow down.
You move too fast.
Looking for fun and feeling….broody?

Okay that is not exactly how the famed
Simon and Garfunkel song goes.

But do you ever feel broody?

I had never actually heard the term broody
until I became a backyard chicken farmer.
So in the event, you do not know the term either,
here is basically what it means:

A chicken becomes broody when she decides she wants to hatch an egg.
Your once egg-producing happy-go-lucky-hen suddenly gets totally bitchy
and will just sit in the nesting boxes (where eggs are normally laid) all day.
She will squawk and carry on anytime any of the other chickens try to come lay an egg and basically stop all flock production until she can hatch an egg or somehow “snaps out of it”.

This is broody.
And this can last for weeks.

When broody is applied to humans, well it looks kind of similar.
Unhappy.  Over-thinking.  Non-action.  Unmotivated.  Stuck. 

When I feel broody it can catch me off guard.

What is going on?
How come I am feeling so unmotivated?
What’s wrong with me?
How long is this feeling going to last?

I used to get quite worked up about it.

Like any pattern that repeats itself, there is a gift here when it shows up.
Now, if I feel broody, I recognize it right away and have learned not to panic.
Instead I simply notice it.
I keep an eye on it.
And I check in with ‘it’.

Am I pushing myself too hard?
Am I missing something important that I am barreling through on?
Am I going in the wrong direction?

I simply ask my ‘broody-ness’ what is called for here.

Rest?
Re-set?
Re-direct?
Re-evaluate?

I do not judge it.
In fact, I have learned to accept it just like an inspired or happy mood.
I invite it in for metaphorical tea and ask it what it wants.
I do not expect myself to be inspired, energized, positive or uplifted
every moment of every day.

I allow tired, sad, and broody to be a part of me too.

In the words of an old Persian proverb I remember:
“This too shall pass”.

With all things that show up in my life,
I can resist them or use them to ask myself new questions.

Broody or groovy, it is all part of my human experience.
And yours too.

To simply allowing,
Beth

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September is perfect for this….

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September is perfect for this….

Can you feel it?
The nights are getting a little cooler.
The wind has just a chillier air to it.
Like it or not, fall is coming.

Back to school season.

When I was a kid I absolutely loved back to school day.
Everything was new.
New classes.
New teachers.
New backpack.
New pencil case.
(obviously school supplies were a big part of my joy!)
I loved everything about it.

And I still do.

There is an energy about September that is super motivating.
As my friend Linda would say “September is the new January”.
There is something about this time of year where you just feel like starting new things.  New fitness program.  New book.  New hobby. New habits.  New starts.

This is the question I am asking all of my private clients right now:
“What do you want to be celebrating in December?”

Often the tendency is to set multiple goals.  Lose some weight.  And make more money.  And fall more in love.  All at once.  But my suggestion is to just pick the MOST important goal to you.  ONE thing you are absolutely committed to for the next 90 days.  Just one.  Of course you can still work on other things but put your focus on just one.  And then begin.

To September starts,
Beth

ps

Want some support with your goals?  I currently have a few openings in my private practice.  If you would like a complimentary 30 minute session to see if coaching is a fit for you, book here:  http://mindsetcoaching.genbook.com

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A quote to live by

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A quote to live by

If you spend anytime on social media
- or really any media for that mater -
there is no shortage
of inspired quotes with motivational sayings to live by.

I confess, I am a collector of great quotes myself.
I bet you have your own fav’s of quotes, movie lines
or excerpts from speeches that you know in an instant who said them.

But like anything, a quote is only really useful if it inspires action.

Here is one I love:
“Your enemy is expectation. Your ally is detachment”
-William Whitecloud

Ah…. the art of detachment.
I spend a lot of time coaching on this with my private clients.
Think about it, when it comes to the humans in your life
how often have you been upset about something
someone has said or done
that was not what you thought they should say or do in that situation.

The “should” here is key.
This is expectation.

Anytime you have a should rolling around in your head,
it is a recipe for disaster.

“They should have called me”
“I should have gotten the promotion”
“They should have invited me”
“They should have sent a gift”
“They should have asked me”

And a million other “should-have’s” we can think of.  When we think in ‘should-have’s’ we are imposing what we think is the “right” or “proper” or “appropriate” or even “kind” thing to do.
I might even agree with your but whatever we think is “right” is based on our own values, beliefs and moral compass.  And when we impose what we think it is “supposed to be” we pass judgement on anyone who might have a different way of seeing or doing things.

And the world is filled with crappy ways people are handling value conflicts right now.

The solution?  Detachment.

This where you can practice not being attached to how or what or when something happens.  Instead of expectation, you embody “expectancy” meaning an energy of what you hope will happen without getting “attached” to all the details.

Take a simple date with a friend.

You really want to get together and you are only free Tuesday so it must be Tuesday.  And you really want to go to your favourite restaurant because you really love it there.  And you do not want to drive so you want your friend to pick you up.  And there is this movie you really want to see after dinner.  And you have a favourite place you like to sit in the theatre.  And you really want to share the popcorn.   And you want to go for coffee after to de-brief.   And you really want it to be at your favourite coffee shop….and….

Can you see the problem with this scenario?  How many places can you spot the expectation?  This example might seem far-fetched but I challenge you to think of the last time you were attached to how or when or where something had to go and when it didn’t go your way, you were upset.  This is expectation and disappointment is right around the corner when people fail to meet them.  Especially if they have no idea you even have them!

Expectancy or detachment does not have rules.  Expectancy is an energy that is simply excited to be getting together.  An expectancy that it will be fun no matter what you do or where you go or what activity rolls out where.  This allows for space.  This honours that two people might have an idea of what might be awesome or desired in this shared experience.  There is no attachment but instead the space to simply connect without any judgement or terms of how it ‘should” go.

Can you not ask for what you want?
Of course!

Just don’t be attached….

To staying open,
Beth

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Time for a mid-year re-set?

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Time for a mid-year re-set?

Perhaps you have forgotten the goals you set in January.
Or maybe you have been over- enjoying all the indulgences of summer (or winter if you live in Australia!).
Either way, you may have let a few things slide in your life.

Totally get it.
And here is your chance to re-set.
Because the only time it is too late to hit the re-set button is when you are dead.

For the past few months I have been talking, creating and doing a lot of things alive.
The Alive Audit.
The Alive Revolution.
And now, the "official" opening of the Alive Academy.

Because we all know, great intentions only go so far.
It you want to really up-level your life, two things are key:

Awareness and Accountability.

 First awareness.  Even if you have already done, go download the Alive Audit and do it again.  That way you have it as a template to do ANY time you want to re-set or re-evaluate your life.  Go here to get your very own copy to use over and over anytime you want to assess your life.

http://www.thealiverevolution.com/aliveaudit/

Now for the accountability part.  Get yourself a support system.  A group of friends.  A coach.  Or a whole community around your goals.

Want all three?
Then I wildly, enthusiastically invite you to join the Alive Academy and spend the year with me and Linda Edgecombe- coaching, community and accountability all rolled into one.

Did I mention the savings?  Right now, you can opt in for your “re-set sale” discount of $100 off the pay-in-full option which is valid until midnight, August 20th.

http://www.thealiverevolution.com/the-alive-revolution-academy/

Of course, you can always pay by the month or full price anytime too (but not why be supported and save money?)

So jump in.
Say yes.
Let’s do this alive thing together all year long.

One caveat, whatever you do, do not sit on the fence.  That is wasted energy.  Say yes. Say no.  Just don’t say maybe.

To choosing alive,
b

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